This topic of being Orgasmic in the face of judgment really FIRES me UP! This area is something that really touches a deep deep place within me and I’ll do my best to share with you tools and techniques to live orgasmically regardless of other people’s judgments.
Let’s again focus upon the wondrous energy of orgasm, that energy of the joyful expression of who you are, the joyful expression of YOU, the joyful expression of your BODY; it is the joyful expression of you AND your body having a really good time, no matter what it is that you’re doing.
How can you have all of that amazing energy and all of you in the face of judgment?
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Key #1-TURN. IT. UP! And know other people’s judgments have nothing to do with you.
Tool: Remind yourself it is not about you. It. Is. NOT. About. You. (It is about THEM).
Other people’s judgments are probably in the top 3 list of things that stop us from doing and being ANYTHING in life, and it is no different for living orgasmically. One of the best ways to have all of you and your orgasmic energy is to recognize their judgment has nothing to do with you, AND TURN IT UP. Be more joyful, be happier, be more of anything that is fun for you, and that you know will give you the space for you to have more of you and all you’re asking for. BE YOU!
Now I know for many of us this is counterintuitive to what we’ve been taught to do or automatically do. I don’t know about you, but I’ve spent a lot of my life turning myself down to make everyone else around me more comfortable. I turned myself down because I didn’t want people to feel bad around me, I didn’t want to hurt people, and I didn’t want them to be uncomfortable.
What does turning yourself down look like?! Think of stuffing you into a box, and then another smaller box, and another until you can barely recognize yourself. I thought that if I made myself smaller and smaller that all of those people would be okay, would like me, and I’d be happier, but it turned out that in that place of diminishing my light I started energetically killing myself. My body and my being started to wither away- the opposite of happy..
It took me a very long time to learn that I couldn’t make everyone happy. I couldn’t stop their judgments from coming my way, even with doing my very best to extinguish my innate Orgasmic energies.
When you shut yourself down, diminish your light and subdue the expression of orgasmic energies you are cutting off those energies from your BODY. When you do this, you are not only hurting yourself and your body, but you’re also not allowing yourself to BE the GIFT and INVITATION to a different possibility that I KNOW YOU ARE.
Dimming your light for anyone or anything is absolutely no way to live.
- Do any of you turn yourself DOWN instead of UP in the face of judgment?
- Do any of you make yourself smaller in attempt to be invisible or make others happy?
In the video from this week I share a story about my father and an example of how I chose being my wacky weird orgasmic self and shine instead of shrink as I may have previously. I wonder if this story might resonate with you or spark a light that’s been desperately waiting to be lit- check it out!
Key #2- Recognize that you are DIFFERENT
If you’re anything like me you have a level of joy that you’d like to share with everyone, and you do your best to contribute to people having your level of joy; sadly not everybody actually wants that level of joy. And perhaps the only time you recall your level of joy was when you were a child, and that exuberance has since faded with adulthood. Don’t worry, it’s still there!
One of the ways in which we trap ourselves is by thinking that everybody else wants what we also want. Especially in the attempt to connect with others we have most likely already found all the ways that we are SIMILAR to each other, so they MUST be exactly like us in this are too?!
- Doesn’t EVERYBODY want to be happy?
- Wait, doesn’t everybody want to live JOYFULLY?
- Doesn’t everyone want to know the magic that their body is?
Sadly, at this time, the answer is no.
Once you let yourself know that not everyone will choose joy, happiness or orgasmic living then there is space for them to choose what they would like to choose (even if it’s sadness or misery), and for you to choose whatever you would like. There’s space for ALL OF IT. Recognizing their choice has nothing to do with you, their judgments have nothing to do with you, gives you more freedom to be all of you, regardless of what they choose!
Request: Please, Please, PLEASE let yourself in on a tiny gigantic secret- the secret of YOU. The secret of how different you are from everyone around you. There is no one in this world that is exactly like you, you’re different. You’re weird. You’re not normal and that is MAGNIFICENT.
It is actually YOU, and your DIFFERENCE, that can be the catalytic conversion into a greater possibility for all of those around you, and our planet.
- Are you ready to choose YOU and your orgasmic energies regardless of judgments?
Key #3- It is Okay that Not Everyone Likes You AND It Is Okay to Let People Go.
On this journey of Being Orgasmic you may find that not everyone will be able to watch you succeed, have the level of joy you have or even be around you when you are being brave and TURNING IT UP!
It is normal and even healthy to allow people to flow in and out of your life. Sometimes the space, and the release of the need to hang onto everyone in your life can create more space for you to choose to be all of you. This also gives the other person the space to grow and continue on their own path.
If there are people in your life that do not support you, constantly try to control you and make you feel bad for being you it is OK to let them go. I give you permission.
If living an Orgasmic Life is something that you desire for you and your body, then choose to make it a top priority in your life. Choose YOU. Play with these energies, practice choosing different in the moment, practice honoring you even in the face of judgments and making people uncomfortable. If you keep choosing to play not only will you be happier, you’ll also be inviting others to more and inviting those that desire a joyful orgasmic life into your world. Soon you’ll have a bunch of amazing orgasmic playmates to share your life with, and no I’m not talking about in the bedroom- but that’s always possible too. 😉
Last little side note: When you get to the place where you know yourself, when you have that DEEP core level of confidence in who you are, it doesn’t matter how many judgments get thrown your way because you know YOU, and you know you are going to continue to choose to be you no matter what. This is the end goal of choosing to play with what lights you up, with orgasmic energies, having all of YOU in every moment.
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