Playing with some VIP clients over the past couple of weeks this topic has been bubbling to the surface A LOT. If orgasmic energy is innately available to our body and it’s an energy that we all have when we are born, AND it is an energy that is generative and expansive and lovely to experience, then why do we so easily shut it down?
The two things that came up RIGHT AWAY when looking at why it is we so easily shut down orgasmic energy is these two: shame and judgement.
Most of us have been incredibly shamed and judged for our bodies and sexual orgasmic energies for lifetimes, even when they have nothing to do with the act of sex.
It goes deeper than the ubiquitous shaming of women’s bodies and sizes, and women aren’t the only ones who have been shamed and judged, men too experience these two emotions that stop orgasmic living in its tracks.
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Men experience body shame in a myriad of ways, they often feel they are not muscular enough or tall enough. They worry they need a six-pack of abs to attract a woman, and that if they can’t attain the abs, or a woman’s attention, there is something wrong with them.
Shaming occurs energetically, as well as verbally, and whether it’s your physical body that’s been shamed, or it is you the infinite being that’s been shamed for being too much, this is what begins the process of toning yourself down and cutting off your lifeline to orgasmic energies.
Too loud, too friendly, too quiet, too pretty, not pretty enough, too big, too small.
We are ALL continuously shamed and judged in all the different roles we play in our lives. If we have too much sexual energy, if we don’t have enough of it, if we are being inappropriate with it. This is the current state of affairs rather than what is possible beyond the judgement and shame; beyond the judgement and shame is the option to ACKNOWLEDGE and CELEBRATE Orgasmic Energy as the generative creative tool it is, instead of discounting it.
These energies of shame and judgment are wrapped around and intertwined with orgasmic energy and orgasmic living for all of us, which makes this question about why we discount these energies so easily a PERSONAL ONE.
There are generalized experiences across the board, but I would love for you to know what it is for YOU?
Tool: Ask yourself, “What is it that creates me shutting down this energy?”
How Often Do You Actually Use the Creative and Generative Energies That Are Available with Your Body? (And why we tend to discount them)
We are not taught how to be present with, and use, our body’s generative creative energies.
We are actually taught to be distracted by our bodies! Distraction allows for it to be so much easier to discount orgasmic energies.
Think of a time when you had something going on with your body, maybe a pain or a discomfort. Maybe you sprained your ankle, or maybe your body was not the size that you want it to be. This reality has created our bodies as a problem, which then DISTRACTS us from being present with our bodies in a generative creative way.
So, something is going on with your body and you want to fix it. You’ve already gotten distracted. You’re putting ALL of your focus and awareness and attention on these “problems,” when they are actually just DISTRACTIONS. Distractions from the whole world of generative creative energies that you’d love to have, and all the generative creative energies that our BODIES can be for us.
Instead of creating life WITH our body, and including our body, we get distracted trying to FIX our body. We get caught up trying to live up to someone else’s standard.
Even the energies that I was talking about before, shame and judgement, those are ALSO distractions. We put our attention on other people’s projections, or their expectations, or how they are judging us for the way that we look, or the way that we talk, or the way that we are.
We let all of this crazy insanity take precedence over orgasmic energies; we LET the loudness of the distractions stop us from where we would like to go.
Let me give you an example that’s a bit wacky, but really sends the point home.
You’re walking down the street and to your right there’s an insane asylum. A bit further down the street to your left is all the generative, creative, nurturing and kind orgasmic energies you’ve been asking for. You have to pass the insane asylum before you can get to the orgasmic living playground on the left.
As you’re walking past the insane asylum there’s someone hanging out the window yelling all of these crazy things at you, to you, about you. Telling you all the things that you get distracted with in your real life regularly, i.e. you’re not pretty enough, or smart enough; you can’t do the things you dream about etc.
When you stop to listen, or get caught up in what the insane person in the insane asylum is telling you, you never make it to the Orgasmic magic that is just down the street.
Now imagine this is a real scenario, would you pay attention to what this insane person was saying? Would you take ANY of it personally? Would you spend even 5 minutes pondering about what a crazy STRANGER was saying about you?
It seems silly to answer yes, but this is what many of us do ALL THE TIME.
When we listen to or believe all the lies and insanities of the distractions, when we think that these insane energies and these insane thoughts, feelings, emotions, projections, expectations, and judgements are more real and more valid than what we know about us, we automatically close ourselves off to receiving the softer and more subtle orgasmic energies. We never make it just down the street.
Why do we do this to ourselves?!
Let’s. Just. STOP IT.
Instead, why don’t we practice getting present with ourselves, and identifying the things that activate that contraction, distraction and insane asylum shouter so that we can call them all what they are, DISTRACTIONS.
Let’s tell our personal version of the insane asylum window shouter, whether in our own heads or not, to just BACK OFF.
Tell all the distractions you’re not interested in their insanity any longer and walk on by, down the street to the energies that are nurturing for you, the energies that are kind for your body and some of those orgasmic energies: pleasure, joy, exuberance, gratitude, curiosity, wonder.
THESE are WAY. MORE. FUN!
Once you become more aware of what the distractions are for YOU, and can notice when they start getting loud, you can practice pivoting even quicker past all that loud clanging and continue moving forward to the land of softness, gentleness and ease with your body by choosing yummy orgasmic energies.
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