What have you defined as an orgasm that keeps you from the pleasures that are available with
your body?
In this reality we have defined an orgasm as that moment we have to “get to” during sex. That
elusive thing that if we contract our bodies long enough, will create the explosion of sensation
we are all seeking.
And then, it’s over. We roll over and we’re done. Ugh…boring!
What’s beyond that? What else is possible with the pleasurable sensations our bodies are
capable of having?
I began playing with this notion of going beyond “the orgasm” a few years ago. I started noticing
“the hunt” that occurs during sex. Not just within myself, but with my partner as well. If I touch
you there…or move in just the right way…or maybe this position will make it happen…or maybe
this one. That was a lot of work!
Then I noticed the STOP that showed up once we had reached our climax. We were done. It
was over. We got there and there’s nothing more to be done here.
I began to wonder…what if we didn’t make the orgasm the final destination? What’s beyond
this stopping point?
I began to experiment….and what I found was exquisite! Our bodies capacity for pleasure is
immeasurable. It’s our points of views, our judgments, our decisions and conclusions that stop
us from experiencing the pleasures that are available with our bodies.
Here’s a few tips on going beyond orgasms:
1. What if sex was about the fun and joy you can have with another body? What if you
didn’t even try to have an orgasm? What if you could explore your partners body with
curiosity and wonder? Hmmm…that’s a new way of being with your body….
2. RELAX. BREATHE. REPEAT. Stay present with your body. With every breath relax
even more. Breathe into the moment and be present with every sensation. Be present
with every touch, every caress, every movement.
3. Ask: “Body, what’s beyond this?” Allow your body to show you what else is possible!
Sex is the body’s domain. I mean really, If you didn’t have a body, would you be able to
have sex? So ask him or her what she knows? Let the energy of your body guide you.
I played with all of these tools and what showed up was magical. I became aware that I had to
expand and relax rather than contract for orgasm. The more I practiced, the more energy,
pleasure and sensation was available. There was so much more to experience with my body
and with my partner!
The invitation is for you to allow your body to guide you to more of that expansiveness.. Enjoy
the healing, nurturing, caring, creative, expansive, joyful and orgasmic energy that is available
to all of us.
One more thing…if you have been stopping you at the end of your orgasm…I invite you to look
at where else is your life you’ve stopped yourself. In your relationships, with your money flows,
in business…see what you find out…
How does it get better than this?
Patty Alfonso
Creator of Pole Dancing For Consciousness ™
Access Consciousness® Certified Facilitator
www.PattyAlfonso.Sexy
