How Can I Live Orgasmically If I am Single?
A misconception that many people have is that if you are single you can’t live orgasmically. I can unequivocally say that this is NOT true! Let’s discuss this and put that pesky misconception to bed so you can have more clarity in knowing REGARDLESS of what is going on in your life YOU CAN choose Orgasmic Living.
The word orgasm naturally has a lot of people go straight to thinking of partners in bed, and then if they don’t have a partner thinking this idea of Orgasmic Living isn’t for them. This is NOT true. Being single is a GREAT place to start exploring what lights you up, turns you on and what Orgasmic Living is for YOU.
Being single can be the easiest time to dig-in and really explore what is orgasmic for YOU and your body. When you don’t have a partner you can bypass the natural tendency to place attention on the other person and what works for them, and instead spend some good ole quality time with YOU, truly truly exploring what is fun for you.
In this week’s video I discuss more about the tendency we have when we get into partnership to lose ourselves a little bit and then lose that connection to what brings US joy, pleasure, nurturance and fun.
Check out the video for more on this here:
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So now that we know regardless of being single or partnered, Orgasmic Living is possible for everyone, let’s get to those tools to get you there!
TOOL #1- Get Into Question and Find Out What is Orgasmic for YOU and YOUR BODY
Ask your body any of these questions!
- Hey body! What would be orgasmic for YOU?
- Body, what would be fun for you today?
- Body, what can we create today together?
Play with these questions, and let your body show you what would be fun for you both.
ALLOW your BODY to ~ S H O W ~ you what is fun, joyful and orgasmic.
Try NEW things! ~ P L A Y ~. Get more in tune with your beautiful body and its desires.
Creating communion between you and your body is a one on one practice that does not have to do with another person. Even if you are in a partnership this is an individual process on exploring you and your body; you have to discover this within yourself! How fun is that?!
Getting to know YOU, getting to know YOUR BODY, honoring you and your body and what you both enjoy is the start to living tuned-in and turned-on in every moment, single or partnered.
TOOL #2: CREATE a Body Fun List
PLEASE make a list of the things that are really enjoyable for YOU! As you engage with asking your body questions and allowing your body to show you what it enjoys the next step is EXPLORE. Explore these new places and spaces of what you and your body enjoy and then make a LIST. Choose to do them everyday or at least once or twice a week so you can create that energy of living orgasmically WITH YOU and FOR YOU.
This is a tool to show you that YOU create your own Orgasmic Living and orgasmic energies. When you have that with you, and FOR you, it is so much easier to create that energy with someone else. This assists in preventing your Orgasmic LIFE from being dependent on someone else, or relying on someone else to light you up or turn you on- giving you so much more FREEDOM in choosing for you, your body and your life.
Once you’ve started this list have it somewhere you can see it daily, and as you play new items will emerge to be added to the list!
TOOL #3: Get Out of Your Head!
Get out of your head and get into your body; get really, really present with your body.
You might be thinking to yourself, that sounds really great Patty, but HOW IN THE WORLD do I do that?!!?
I heard you! Here’s an Exercise to assist you in getting out of your head!
FILL your ENTIRE body with YOU, and YOUR energy.
Take a moment right now and allow your body to breathe. Notice your body breathing, and as you breathe, get really present with your whole body: your toes, your feet, your ankles, your calves, your knees, your thighs, your belly, your genitals, your bum, all the way up to your chest, your arms, your shoulders up your neck and mouth and your entire face. As you continue to breath and get more present with the entirety of your body, FILL your body with ALL OF YOU.
As you fill your body with all of you simultaneously expand your energy out. Get really big! Bigger than the room you are in; bigger than the house or the office building that you’re in. Wherever you are, let your energy get bigger and bigger and bigger and BIGGER.
From this space of expansion and presence with your body, when your body is full of YOU and YOUR energy, you can ask, “body, show me show me what is orgasmic for us?”
Here’s a little SECRET: You CAN’T figure out orgasmic energy from a mental space; you can’t work it out in your head. IT IS A BODY THING!
When you use this tool, when you are THIS energetically expanded, and THIS BIG, it is a lot harder to be in your head.
Try it out and let me know what it creates for YOU and YOUR BODY!
The more in tune and in communion you are with your body, the more fully present with all the sensations, large and small, the easier identifying what creates a life of Orgasmic Living for you will be.
Orgasmic Living is about the energy of you and your body really enjoying your life and having way too much fun.
I wonder how much fun can you have exploring what is Orgasmic Living for you and your body!
Adore you all (and your bodies :P)
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